MAXXTOR – 8 WEEK CHALLENGE!

by Ronnie on April 16, 2014

Dear Friends,

It has been awhile since I last posted, but there is no time like the present! Some of you may already know, but it has been one of the most bittersweet years of my life. Firstly, my business partner and myself have gone separate directions. Continuing on as the CEO of Friend Movement, I am dedicated to growing it into the company it deserves to be for the community. I genuinely believe that through celebrating friendship and instilling confidence in our youth and adults alike, that we can reduce bullying and save lives. We must shift our conversation from one of anti-bullying to pro-friendship! :)

Secondly, my boyfriend and myself parted ways and have chosen to be friends after two years of being together. I’m super proud of him and am so thankful for the memories we shared together, but that being said … My heart is very heavy. I’m on a roller-coaster of emotions, but taking this time to really learn what it feels like to love myself. This is something I have successfully inspired others to do, but have yet to master it myself. So, like a phoenix out of the ashes … I am going to soar!

I’ve decided to take on the MAXXTOR – 8 WEEK FITNESS CHALLENGE with my very good friend and COO of Friend Movement, Eddie Lobo. I’m so excited to be training him to reach his goals, and thankful to have him motivating me to reach mine too. We both have decided that it is time to love ourselves first and take care of our bodies, our minds, and our hearts.

It’s not easy to reflect back on life and recognize the things that you still hold onto from your past, but more importantly to realize how they can negatively affect you in the present moment. It’s easier to pretend like those things don’t exist, to suppress them, and to find other distractions. Unfortunately though, those toxic things find a way to bubble up when you least expect them to and when they do, they seem bigger and scarier than before. In order to truly connect with others and love them completely, one must successfully become their own best friend first. That’s what I intend to do now …

We invite you to follow our journey on this blog where we will update you with our unfiltered progress Hopefully, our posts will inspire you to know that you can achieve anything you put your mind to, so long as you put in the work and never give-up. Thank you for your support and kindness, it means the world to us. :)

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MAN IN THE MIRROR

by Ronnie on February 4, 2014

MAN IN THE MIRROR
By: Ronnie Friend Kroell
Photo: Devin Mitchell

The King of Pop, Michael Jackson, first inspired us back in 1988 with his hit song, Man in the Mirror, and it continues to make an impact today.

“I’m starting with the man in
 the mirror. I’m asking him to change 
his ways. And no message could have
 been any clearer. If you wanna make the world
 a better place, take a look at yourself, and
 then make a change.”

WHAT DO YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR?
If you are like much of the world’s population, then you are human and from time to time are susceptible to falling into negative thought patterns. Perhaps you have started to believe that nasty little voice in your head that says that you “cannot” do something, you should just give-up, or that horrible thing they said about you at school/work is actually true.

STOP IT NOW!
Our brains are like super-computers and we are the programmers. I don’t care if you never want to learn html code, but you must start to learn positive self-talk. Positive self-talk is equally as powerful, if not more powerful than negative self-talk. How you talk to yourself will have a major impact on how you interact with others, if you succeed or fail at accomplishing a goal, and most importantly your ability to accept love into your life.

IT STARTS WITH YOU!
When you look in the mirror, simply say these three words, “I LOVE YOU”. Maybe even give yourself a hug and forgive any mistakes you have made, making a commitment to improve.

MAKE A CHANGE!
We are all imperfect people trying to survive in an imperfect world, longing for love and acceptance, and hoping to attain happiness. When we decide to make peace with the man/woman in the mirror, that is the moment we make the world a better place.

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BLAH BLAH BLAH, Action!

by Ronnie on August 14, 2013

There are two very specific types of people that I would like to explore in this blog:

The Talker is someone that always has an idea, but rarely follows through. Says they are going to do something, but never does. Gives false hope to appease someone in the moment, but only succeeds at disappointing them.

The Walker is someone that is usually quiet until they have something to say. Focused on actions rather than words. Unafraid to take risks because they know that the risk can lead to rewards and/or results. Understands that trying and not succeeding the first time is NOT FAILURE, but rather it is an opportunity to get back up and try it a different way.

Most of us are familiar with these types of people because we encounter them in our lives each day. As you are reading this I’m sure you are mentally categorizing some of your own friends, family members, and acquaintances into one of these groups, but let’s take it a step further by asking yourself, “Which one am I?”

If you are the person that finds yourself to be, “The Talker”, what can you be doing differently to turn your talking into action? Challenge yourself to see something through, to be true to your word, and to apologize if you cannot stick to your word.

If you are the person that finds yourself to be, “The Walker”, how can you encourage others around you to learn how to turn their words into action? Yes, you are responsible to teach others around you and to hold them accountable for doing what they say they are going to do. Do not enable the bad behavior by just letting it slide or sugar-coating what you really think or feel.

In Hollywood, there are A LOT of talkers. Somehow the culture has enabled this behavior. Everyone is trying to keep up with one another, pretending to have or be something that they aren’t, desperately trying to be one of the ‘cool kids’. Trying to climb the ladder to fame, even if it means compromising values once held or telling blatant lies so long as it yields desired outcomes. Many people are afraid of helping others because they fear they may be aiding their competition to take something from them, but in reality  –

When you help others, it is impossible not to be helping yourself at the same time.

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LIFE

by Ronnie on July 13, 2013

A humble reflection on life …

I’m especially thankful for this moment. No longer haunted by past mistakes, no more fearing the future, and no more feelings of obligation to make everyone happy. All that matters is this moment, the company I keep, and the dreams I hold in my heart.

I choose to live in a world where anything is possible, NOs turn into YES, anger turns into love, fear turns into hope, and enemies turn into friends. We’re all in the same boat; figuring out whom we are supposed to be, climbing our own mountains, and facing our own adversities. When we can acknowledge that fact, we can move through the world with a bit more patience, understanding, and compassion. We can learn to be a friend to ourselves and to all those around us.

The truth is, we’re not all dealt the same hand of cards. We only know what we know from our life experiences. I’m guilty of making fun of and being prejudice of others that I feared or didn’t understand, but we all are. It’s about learning to recognize that thought pattern when it surfaces and simply reprogramming it with a more positive code. Instead of wasting time being afraid, tearing others down, or seeking out revenge we must challenge ourselves to instead use it as fuel to power our own positive ambitions.

We’re in this crazy game of life together. We create our own drama and suffering, but it doesn’t have to be that way. We get to choose our own adventure …

What will your story be?

Ronnie

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PEOPLE HOLD ON

by Ronnie on July 12, 2013

Everybody’s looking for a meaning
Everybody’s doing their own thing
And nobody’s solving the problem
Ain’t nobody helping each other
Some people give into fear
Some people give into hunger
Some of us live for the future
And some of us wonder
Give a little light, give a little love
Maybe there’s enough for everyone
Give a little hope, and a little trust
Maybe there’s enough for everyone
People hold on
Don’t do yourself wrong
People hold on
We’ve got to be strong
People hold on
Everybody’s getting frustrated
Why should we live with this hatered
We’ve all dancin’ on a thin line
They’re makin’ out we’re having a good time
So who’s gonna give us the answer
Sister and brother
Givin’ into life, givin’ into love
Maybe there’s enough for everyone
People hold on
Don’t do yourself wrong
People hold on
We’ve got to be strong
People hold on
People hold on, people hold on to it
You know you gotta do it
Give a little light, give a little love
Maybe there’s enough for everyone
Give a little hope, and a little trust
Maybe there’s enough for everyone
People hold on
Don’t do yourself wrong
People hold on
We’ve got to be strong
People hold on

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United We Stand

by Ronnie on July 4, 2013

Our nation’s 237th Birthday … United We Stand.

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I woke up this morning with such love and thanks in my heart for having the freedoms that I have grown accustomed to enjoying. I looked over at my handsome BF, Shawn Adeli, and our two beautiful kitties (Tiny & Calamity) and grinned from ear to ear. They were all cuddled up next to him for warmth. These are the moments that make life worth living!

So much has happened for me in the past few years, but especially in the last 365 days. I left Chicago and spent 3 years in NYC and now happily reside in Los Angeles. I’ve been riding the roller-coaster of life with all its ups and downs, overs and unders, and downs and outs. My heart has been broken, beaten, stomped on, loved, nurtured, protected, and healed. I’ve had people say and do horrible things to me, but then I’ve also had people support and celebrate me. All these experiences are neither good nor bad, rather they are simply there to teach me the lessons that I need to learn. They help me to understand who I am, what I am supposed to be doing with my life, and what I deserve. Most of all, they have taught me to never ever give-up on my dreams.

I’m so thankful for the decision from the SCOTUS on Prop 8 and DOMA. It brings us one step forward towards true equality. Separate, but equal has never worked in the US. It didn’t work for women or African Americans, so it makes sense that it could not work for the LGBT Community either. This decision would not have been possible without the trailblazers that braved being beaten, losing their jobs, and even being killed back during Stonewall. I take my hat off to them and hope to continue to do my part to carry the torch that they have passed on to my generation; which we will pass on to the next. The truth is, I’ve never really liked labels. I don’t think anyone can simply fit into one box or category. I’m not a gay man, but rather a man that happens to be gay. I don’t define my life by my personal orientation and I hope others would choose to see beyond it as well.

I’m especially thankful today for Friend Movement. Meeting Elliot London and combining our efforts to follow a common dream has changed my life forever. Never have I met someone more passionate about creating art and making a difference! Together we have taken some great risks, but because of the support we have received from our amazing team I’m confident that we will never know failure. The work that we are doing is far greater than either one of us as individuals. Each person that has offered their support has embraced our vision of defusing bullying by being a better FRIEND in their own unique way. They have added value to our organization and we are deeply grateful for their unwavering support and dedication to making a difference.

When you take a risk to follow your dreams and put yourself out there for what you believe, there are always bound to be a few haters. We are no stranger to receiving some nasty emails, bullying tweets, and yes even death threats!! It’s unfortunate that there are some out there that would rather spend their time hating and snuffing out the light of others, but such is life. We choose to hold our heads up high and continue to do our work, mostly because of the emails and kind notes we have received from around the globe. Love always prevails.

Bullying does not discriminate. It is a global problem that needs global collaboration to resolve. When we spend our time judging, hating, making fun of, and tearing others down we end up tearing ourselves down. Negative energy is extremely heavy and divisive, it bogs us down and wastes valuable time. Instead, we should be focused on celebrating our diversity and sharing our stories with the world! We have nothing to lose by loving, supporting, and lifting those around us UP. In fact, we have everything to gain. Instead of being jealous of or angry at those around us for choosing to follow their dreams successfully, perhaps we should simply take a page from their book?

I’m deeply thankful to all of you reading this. While I don’t claim to have all the answers, I do love the adventures that come with trying to find them. We are all connected. We are global citizens. We have the responsibility of taking care of each other. Let’s choose to replace the hate with love, the war with peace, and the tears with smiles.

The time is NOW.

I wish you peace, love, and friendship always …

Ronnie

 

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Dear Friends,

My heart could not be happier than it is in this moment, but we are at a crucial point in our project’s ability to move forward and we need your support to launch. As someone that has been bullied myself, I know the importance of having a FRIEND and what a difference that can make.

IT’S CRITICAL THAT WE RAISE $25,000 by May 22, 2013

The good news is that DONATIONS ARE TAX-DEDUCTIBLE!

While we need your donations, we also need your dedication … because with your help … we can save lives. This movement is all about YOU. I cannot thank you enough for standing by us, for sharing in this vision with us, and for helping us to bring this dream to life!!

For the past year I have been working with an incredible team of passionate people that have committed themselves to making a difference and preventing bullying with Friend Movement Without a doubt, it has been the best year of my life to date. I’m especially thankful for my business partner, amazing director, and friend – Elliot London.

HOW YOU CAN HELP:

1. Change your middle name to FRIEND on Facebook & Twitter, then ask your friends to do the same. Be part of something BIG … something GLOBAL!

2. **Text BFF to 20222 to make a $10 donation to the movement, it will be added to your phone bill. It’s easy and fun to do!

3. Make a larger tax-deductible contribution via our website, http://www.friendmovement.com/donate

4. “LIKE” our Facebook page and help us reach at least 1000 likes in the next two weeks … only 400 more to go! http://www.facebook.com/friendmovement

4. Follow us on twitter: http://www.twitter.com/friendmovement1

5. Support our community partners, GLAAD and Loehmann’s

Thank you for being a FRIEND,

Ronnie

**For more info about Friend Movement and text by cell donations
http://www.friendmovement.com

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SAME LOVE feat. MARY LAMBERT

by Ronnie on February 16, 2013

SAME LOVE feat. MARY LAMBERT

Published on Oct 2, 2012

Same Love feat. Mary Lambert on iTunes: http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/same…

We support civil rights, and hope WA State voters will APPROVE REF 74 and legalize marriage equality. Visit http://www.music4marriage.org for more info. Support Marriage Equality by ordering the limited edition Same Love vinyl here: http://www.subpop.com/catalog/artists…

Same Love, as featured on the debut album from Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, The Heist, will be available 10/09/2012

The Heist
iTunes: http://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZ…
Amazon: http://amzn.com/B00908DDZM
Deluxe CD: http://www.macklemoremerch.com
In-Stores NOW!!

Same Love, A Film By:
Ryan Lewis
Jon Jon Augustavo
Tricia Davis

Directed by:
Ryan Lewis
Jon Jon Augustavo

Produced by:
Tricia Davis

Director of Photography:
Mego Lin

Associate Producer:
Honna Kimmerer

Starring:
Jairemie Alexander
William Pontius
Shelton Harris
Sarita Valdez
Jay Sommerville

Cast:
Jairemie Alexander
William Pontius
Shelton Harris
Sarita Valdez
Jay Sommerville
Thomas Collins
Tina Tsiakalis
Kendall Kapsner
Rosie Cole
Rory King
Josue Gonzalez
Mia Clapp Perfetti
Mary Lambert
Robert Braxton
Jaida Kimmerer
Brooklyn Thornton

Crew:
Tricia Davis – Producer
Mego Lin – Director of Photography
Honna Kimmerer – Production Design
Miles Johnson – Lead Green
Evelyn Brodersen – Lead Green
Jennifer Terrana – Lead Green
Jennifer Popochock – Makeup Artist
David Herberg – Key Grip
Wil Drake – Best Boy Grip
Mike Dyrland – Best Boy Grip
Yu Chen Lin – Gaffer
Blueboy Sguiggley – Production Assistant
Seth McDonald – Production Assistant
Chris Duerkopp – Steadicam Operator
Craig Nisperos – Still Photographer
Austin Santiago – Location Services
Ben Haggerty – Story Supervisor
Sahwn Anderson – Transportation Coordinator
Nic Adenau – Additional Footage

Special Thanks To:
Tina Tsiakalis @ Eastlake Center For Birth – http://centerforbirth.com/
Greg Turk & Ray Nutter @ All Pilgrims Church – http://www.allpilgrims.org/
The Parry Family & The Kimmerer Family
Miles Johnson @ Fiori Floral Design – http://www.fiorifloraldesign.com/
Meadowbrook Community Center – http://www.seattle.gov/parks/centers/…
Kelly Warner-King
Kristie Gamer and Alvin Stillwell

And a VERY special thank you to Kerri Harrop (Music for Marriage) for her hard work and dedication in the fight for marriage equality and her devoted support to Same Love as an idea, song, and finally now as a music video. “Same Love” and the campaign to approve Ref 74 wouldn’t be the same without you, Kerri.

SONG:
Macklemore & Ryan Lewis
Same Love feat. Mary Lambert
(B. Haggerty, R. Lewis, M. Lambert)
Macklemore Publishing BMI, Ryan Lewis Publishing BMI
Produced by Ryan Lewis for Macklemore DBA Ryan Lewis LLC
Written by Macklemore, Mary Lambert
Piano performed by Josh Rawlings
Violin by Andrew Joslyn
Cello by Natalie Hall
Trombone by Greg Kramer
Recorded and Mixed by Ryan Lewis, Ben Haggerty
Macklemore/RyanLewis Studios, Seattle, WA
Mastered by Sterling Sound, New York City, NY

Macklemore & Ryan Lewis managed by Zach Quillen

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LADY GAGA under attack!

by Ronnie on February 13, 2013

Below you will find a blog that attempts to discredit Lady Gaga’s Born this Way approach. As you can imagine, I had something to say in response to support my FRIEND.

Why the “Born This Way” Argument Fails

By Robin Schumacher

I doubt there’s much disagreement that “born this way” is the number one argument in play today regarding homosexuality.

In debating the issue of same-sex marriage, and homosexual behavior in general, a very common line of reasoning used by our culture to defend homosexuality is that people are born with their sexual orientation. In Christianity, those espousing a pro-gay theology oftentimes declare, “God made me this way.” In both cases, the claim is that you cannot fault someone for being born the way they are, and therefore homosexual behavior should be embraced and valued every bit as much as heterosexuality.

Homosexuality aside for a moment, I’d like to assert that Lady Gaga can sing “Born This Way” all she’d like, but the argument itself doesn’t stick.

This fact is becoming especially relevant today because we are now beginning to see the argument utilized to justify many other behaviors, with the most recent being pedophilia. Christian commentators have said for a long time that we would go down this road, but they were crucified in the media for suggesting it.

But really, did anyone doubt this would happen?

Why the Argument Fails in General

Whether someone is born a homosexual or not is a debate that continues to rage with “experts” on both sides producing data and studies that supposedly solidify their position. Personally, I think the debate is somewhat irrelevant for the following reason:

Being born with certain behavioral predispositions does not equate to those desires being good, moral, and right in the eyes of God.

For example, I wasn’t born monogamous. I truly wish I was, but sadly, I wasn’t. My natural inclinations and drives are aimed at having sex with women, and truth be told, as many as I possibly can.

I also wasn’t born patient. Instead, I was born naturally impatient.

And self-centered.

And prone to outbursts of anger.

And unforgiving.

And a liar.

And greedy.

I was born with all of these things and more. These traits and desires come to me naturally, are quite strong, and are very easy for me to live with in lots of ways.

If you want to see many of these sinful behaviors in full bloom, you needn’t look any further than the nearest 3-year old child, who will be only too happy to demonstrate his true nature when you don’t give him what he wants or if you take something away from him. This may be why Reinhold Neibuhr has gone so far as to argue that, “The doctrine of original sin is the only empirically verifiable doctrine of the Christian faith.” [1]

Yet, each one of these natural tendencies is something every responsible parent works hard at changing in their child, and that each responsible adult should work hard at removing from their life.

This is why the “born that way” argument fails in general. Its implicit foundation is flawed because it assumes that if a person is born with a particular inclination towards a behavior, then it must be moral and good. That just isn’t true.

MY RESPONSE:

Robin,

No one is born with behavior – bad, good, or otherwise is debatable, but rather it is learned.

All the things you are listing to support your argument and discredit my FRIEND Lady Gaga’s “Born This Way” are learned patterns of behavior; therefore the foundation upon which it is built is not solid. One has a choice to act or not act on those impulses and to behave a certain way.

Sexuality, on the other hand, is a natural born TRAIT – much like being born with brown eyes or blue eyes. We do not have control over this because it is natural selection, it is in the way we are programmed and in our DNA. You can witness it in nature too, as humans are not the only species in the Animal Kingdom that are known to have homosexual members amongst them.

We as humans have attempted to create a more “civilized society”, but in doing so some religions take it too far – their motives are not pure. The leaders of the organizations make rules that serve their own personal need for attention, money, power, ego , you name it. Many followers believe in the rhetoric and go blindly without questioning how they formed their belief system.

It’s mind boggling to me that the head of the Roman Catholic Church, The Pope, could ever take an opinion that denounces gays as a “Christ-like” approach to lead his flock. Have we forgotten how much blood has spilled in the name of Christ? Would Christ have condoned the behavior of many so-called “Christians” as they justified their actions in his name? I’m pretty sure the answer is NO.

Christ was a good man that loved and welcomed ALL PEOPLE. The Christ I know, and the Christians I respect, believe in a loving Christ and a loving GOD that has created each of us in his image. After all, he doesn’t make mistakes and there is always a greater plan at work. It’s not Christ I fear, it is those that follow a fabricated version of him that makes me nervous.

Lastly, and most importantly, you mention in your blog that you are naturally greedy, naturally self-centered, naturally a liar, naturally unforgiving, and naturally prone to outbursts of anger, naturally unable to be monogamous.

Well, I have to tell you that I am “naturally inclined to believe you”.

Warmly,

Ronnie

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